Get the point!
I have also discovered in this short ephemeral existence that life consists of invaluable lessons. Every detail, every bit, every experience, every object... Have in them the ability to teach or instil lessons, lessons that can transform life, change destinies, mould lives, and cause tremendous change.
Henry Ford says "anyone who stops learning is old whether at 20 or eighty, anyone who keeps learning stays young either at 80 or 20."
King Solomon, the supposedly wisest man on earth says" wisdom is the principal thing, therefore get wisdom. In all thy gettins, get understanding" proverbs 4:7.
You need not have intellectual intecourse with a thousand literatures to learn in life.
I was a voluntary futsal coach of these young brilliant and beautiful girls,in synergy with their other technical coaches. I spent my time, energy, resources and everything in me to ensure the got better and could challenge any team of their age and level, I'll never take on anything I won't be committed to, I would wake up in the middle of the night sometimes to device skills and tactics to teach them at training by 6am. A bunch of them didn't take the training sessions seriously.
Eventually we went for a competition in another city, the first I went with them. There were high expectations, we travelled over 6hrs by road for the competition, but unfortunately, we performed abysmally woeful, we had one draw, out of 6games and ignominuously lost the rest. The defeat and disappointment was so visible on me,  that the players lost hope in themselves. I cannot recount how many times some of them came to me in penitence, feeling bad and apologised for letting us down so terribly. Offcourse no one would feel good after spending sleepless nights and money to get such result. Imagine we travelled 6 long hours journey to be defeated and went back home.
Shortly after the competition, I left for another city. They thought I gave up on them due to the experience, but I had to explain to the coaches why I left.  For the next 3 months, I was not with them, they had intensive training, got more serious, failure has taught them a lesson, disappointment has given them determination.
And just last week, one of the most fulfilling days of my life, one of them chatted me,  feeling very grateful and emotional, they went for another competition, and this time they not only won the games, they won the competition! I almost did not believe. Her words and eulogies thought me 3 important lessons in life
1. Failure had taught them the process of independent motivation.Neither myself nor the other coaches had to force, coerce or persuade them to go for training, they have learnt to motivate themselves even without external instigation or aid, they got point the first loss was trying to teach them.
2. Any story can change... With time.  They were the last 4 months ago, now they are the champion.  Just like the season Chelsea fc struggled to escape relegation despite being the PL champion the previous season. You see, you can be a failure yesterday, and become a success today. What's more important actually is the gap between the time of failure and success... What they did in that gap.
3.They wanted to prove 3 points to me
a.  That just like every other person who has ever failed, they deserved a second chance.
b. That all the skills they learnt were not in vain, they only needed to develop and bring it out.  See, all your experiences in life are never wasted, you will use the most insignificant of them someday, somewhere, somehow. 
C. And that even though we were embarrassed by the first competition and ashamed of them, we could be proud of them again. I wish I was there with them during the victory celebration.
However the most important lesson is that they got the point. The point failure tried to show them. Get the point in and out of that situation.
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